27th Jun 2019
You’ve found the perfect venue, chosen the dress, sent the invitations, you’ve even chosen the food but have you thought about the music that will be playing as you walk down the aisle?
For many, despite music playing a big part in their lives, the exact music they want for this momentous occasion is often something that isn’t thought about until much nearer the big day. Yes, you may have booked the musician or band they like well in advance (which we highly recommend!), but telling them exactly what you want to hear before you say ‘I do’ is another matter. When it does come to deciding what you want, you can go from having no idea, to having too much choice.
Music is highly emotive however, and your processional song is one that will mean a lot to you for the rest of your life. It is important not to become so focused on what you will dance to for the first time that you forget about the music that will be playing as you take those all important steps towards your husband-to-be.
Think about the kind of ceremony you are having and how the music you love will fit in with it. Kate Middleton walking down the aisle of Westminster Abbey along an avenue of trees has got to be one of the most memorable moments of the last decade. As she walked down the aisle she heard ‘I Was Glad’ by Sir Charles Hubert Hastings Parry from Psalm 122 as did the rest of the world. This dramatic piece reflected the grandeur of the occasion as well as having historic connections to the Royal Family as it is often performed during coronations.
Miranda Kerr, walked towards Snapchat CEO Evan Spiegel to the sound of Arvo Part’s ‘Spiegel im Spiegel’ before they said their vows last year. As well as apparently being a favourite song of hers, and matching what was to become her new name, the music fitted well with the low-key intimate ceremony they had.
Of course, it doesn’t have to be a classical or religious piece. Bruno Mars’ Marry You has become a very popular choice, as has a number of Ed Sheeran songs and it’s easy to see why; as well as being romantic, songs that are heard on the radio a lot often remind couples of special moments in their life. Singer Alecia Beth Moore, or Pink as most people know her, went for something more popular with Billy Joel’s ‘More Than A Woman’ as she walked along the beach to say her vows. Many musicians and bands will be happy to put their own spin on popular songs so your ceremony has that unique touch and this often gets guests talking as well.
A really romantic touch is to let the groom choose the song for his bride to walk down the aisle to. We’ve heard of some beautiful choices when the bride has given her man free reign from ‘Ho Hey’ by The Lumineers to ‘Lucky Man’ by The Verve. It certainly sparks a few heartfelt tears especially if this is listed as ‘chosen by the groom’ in the hymn sheet or ceremony programme guests receive as they arrive.
It’s important to think about the surroundings and setting of your ceremony. For example, if you love opera but are getting married in a smaller venue, try to go for a softer piece that won’t have people at the front clutching their ears. Speak to your singer, musician or band about their recommendations and experiences, after all they will have performed at a lot of weddings. See if there’s something at your venue you can take advantage of. Here at Birdsall House, we have a grand piano in our historic Oval Room and can recommend a number of excellent and experienced pianists.
Whatever your taste in music, if you haven’t yet given your song list to your chosen performer take the time to sit down with your partner and listen to some of your favourite tunes. You’ll have a great time sharing memories and by the end of it you’ll no doubt have come to a decision that will leave you even more excited for your special day.